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Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving I have Complex PTSD Cptsd and wrote this book from the perspective of someone who has experienced a great reduction of symptoms over the years I also wrote it from the viewpoint of someone who has discovered many silver linings in the long, windy, bumpy road of recovering from Cptsd I felt encouraged to write this book because of thousands of e mail responses to the articles on my website that repeatedly expressed gratitude for the helpfulness of my work An often echoed comment sounded like this At last someone gets it I can see now that I am not bad, defective or crazy or alone The causes of Cptsd range from severe neglect to monstrous abuse Many survivors grow up in houses that are not homes in families that are as loveless as orphanages and sometimes as dangerous If you felt unwanted, unliked, rejected, hated and or despised for a lengthy portion of your childhood, trauma may be deeply engrained in your mind, soul and body This book is a practical, user friendly self help guide to recovering from the lingering effects of childhood trauma, and to achieving a rich and fulfilling life It is copiously illustrated with examples of my own and my clients journeys of recovering This book is also for those who do not have Cptsd but want to understand and help a loved one who does This book also contains an overview of the tasks of recovering and a great many practical tools and techniques for recovering from childhood trauma It extensively elaborates on all the recovery concepts explained on my website, and many However, unlike the articles on my website, it is oriented toward the layperson As such, much of the psychological jargon and dense concentration of concepts in the website articles has been replaced with expanded and easier to follow explanations Moreover, many principles that were only sketched out in the articles are explained in much greater detail A great deal of new material is also explored Key concepts of the book include managing emotional flashbacks, understanding the four different types of trauma survivors, differentiating the outer critic from the inner critic, healing the abandonment depression that come from emotional abandonment and self abandonment, self reparenting and reparenting by committee, and deconstructing the hierarchy of self injuring responses that childhood trauma forces survivors to adopt The book also functions as a map to help you understand the somewhat linear progression of recovery, to help you identify what you have already accomplished, and to help you figure out what is best to work on and prioritize now This in turn also serves to help you identify the signs of your recovery and to develop reasonable expectations about the rate of your recovery I hope this map will guide you to heal in a way that helps you to become an unflinching source of kindness and self compassion for yourself, and that out of that journey you will find at least one other human being who will reciprocally love you well enough in that way 10 starsThis is the best and most helpful book I ve ever read and reading it was the most encouraging thing I ve done in years.Finally someone understands me Finally I don t feel like a lost case, a weird psycho, the only one in the universe suffering from an array of psychological problems that sometimes show for no obvious reason.This book gave me hope which I lacked for years There s a very long and difficult journey in front of me, but I don t mind After reading this book, I know there s 10 starsThis is the best and most helpful book I ve ever read and reading it was the most encouraging thing I ve done in years.Finally someone understands me Finally I don t feel like a lost case, a weird psycho, the only one in the universe suffering from an array of psychological problems that sometimes show for no obvious reason.This book gave me hope which I lacked for years There s a very long and difficult journey in front of me, but I don t mind After reading this book, I know there s a hope and solution for me Complex PTSD is one of the best books I ve read on childhood trauma recovery.Despite the long title, the book itself is not complex nor is it written in psycho babble ra ra The author is grounded in that he himself has struggled with trauma recovery and it s palpable that he wishes to impart the strategies and wisdom he has found to work for himself and others There are many elements that make this self recovery book stand above others for me The author speaks from experience as both a surviv Complex PTSD is one of the best books I ve read on childhood trauma recovery.Despite the long title, the book itself is not complex nor is it written in psycho babble ra ra The author is grounded in that he himself has struggled with trauma recovery and it s palpable that he wishes to impart the strategies and wisdom he has found to work for himself and others There are many elements that make this self recovery book stand above others for me The author speaks from experience as both a survivor and a therapist Though acknowledging the trauma of physical and sexual abuse he primarily focuses on the the severe scarring of emotional abuse, abandonment, and neglect He breaks down the survivor types and their characteristics into four groups, all which seemed spot on Depending on which group you fall into, he gives key strategies to how you approach things and ways to recover in your style He offers a swiss army knife approach to working through the trauma There is not a one size fits all solution He explains why, if you ve done a certain therapy before, it may not have worked The author is vulnerable which spoke to me from a 1 to 1 view rather than from a preachy place He offers many strategies and openly tells you to accept or leave what doesn t fit for you The strategies are practical and work.When I picked this book up, it happens that I ve been learning about and practicing a lot of what the author discussed so the strategies offered particularly resonated with me Very importantly, he pointed out that talk therapy alone doesn t work Somatic therapy alone doesn t work Mindfulness alone doesn t work It s truly a package approach to recovery.Overall, this is an easy and intriguing read Though I ve read other self recovery books, the author pointed out so many truths that I just haven t seen articulated elsewhere which lead to a lot of personal epiphanies and A ha moments I will be returning to this one a lot.Great read There are less than 20 books i can think of that actually changed my life, and this is one of them.Pete Walker outlines in clear understandable language what contributes to C PTSD This is definitely a layman s book and thank god, it s free from the endless anecdotes that infest most popular self help or psychology books that populate the ranks ofbest sellers.Dr Walker uses examples from his own life with humility and insight a refreshing change from the hectoring and condescending There are less than 20 books i can think of that actually changed my life, and this is one of them.Pete Walker outlines in clear understandable language what contributes to C PTSD This is definitely a layman s book and thank god, it s free from the endless anecdotes that infest most popular self help or psychology books that populate the ranks ofbest sellers.Dr Walker uses examples from his own life with humility and insight a refreshing change from the hectoring and condescending tone found in this genre.I had to read this book several times to absorb the information and come to discomfiting realizations about my own life Thanks to this book, I went on to further research on the topic of developmental trauma, and am learningevery week Excellent book on a very hard topic We all are familiar with PTSD Most often in the news concerning returning veterans Walker s books is about Complex PTSD cPTSD The added c essentially extends many of the ideas of trauma recovery to childhood developmental traumas Most specifically childhood traumas arising from poor parenting and troubled home environments It is delineated by common features emotional flashbacks unlike PTSD there is not usually visual component , toxic shame directly drawing from the work of John Bra We all are familiar with PTSD Most often in the news concerning returning veterans Walker s books is about Complex PTSD cPTSD The added c essentially extends many of the ideas of trauma recovery to childhood developmental traumas Most specifically childhood traumas arising from poor parenting and troubled home environments It is delineated by common features emotional flashbacks unlike PTSD there is not usually visual component , toxic shame directly drawing from the work of John Bradshaw Healing the Shame that Binds You, self abandonment carrying on abandonment with self sabotage even when out of toxic environment , a vicious inner critic typically turned against self and not those who screwed you over and social anxiety A common result of toxic parenting is feeling of abandonment and depression, which turns to fear and shame, this activates an overly defensive toxic inner critic, which relentlessly moves us into an adrenaline fueled fight fight response Over time this can lead to naming a few low self esteem, low self compassion, little motivation and insidiously repeating the bad relationship dynamics with problems like codependency Walker expands the fight flight response into what he calls the 4F s.The 4F s are as follows Fight a narcissistic dominance of others, Flight anxious productivity, Freeze disassociation into right brain fantasizing or even left brain intellectualizing , and Fawning trying to be pleasing or helpful to forestall rejection and angry responses All are often accompanied by social isolation that only reinforces the shame and fear.It is not real necessary to spend too much time figuring out which one may apply because they are inexact and vary in degrees and can work together But, the fundamentals of Walker s relationship therapy apply to all of them In part, turning shame, that is essentially blame turned wrongly against the self, to the real source.Flashbacks and the inner critic are the driving forces from trauma rooted in abandonment issues Childhood abuse both physical, and that resulting from neglect where nobody was ever physically harmed, create an understandable reaction A child by nature compensates for the weaknesses of parents like soothing the violent household by being overly agreeable fawning and being vigilant for signs of violent behavior, parenting siblings for absent parent, accepting complete lack of attention as the way things are and never forming any interests, and hundreds of other issues big and small.I wrote in my review of a Waking the Tiger by Peter A Levine that Levine sees traumatic fight flight as a natural response to events and that the problems arise only when the higher rational neo cortex gets stuck in its release of that trauma after the triggering event has passed Walker might agree The toxic inner critic, through flashbacks and shame, not only keeps the emotions from the triggering events fresh, but through random happenstance adds many others via association It can really be ANYTHING, the color of a car, mustaches, broken objects, dirt, a reoccurring dream The effect is what matters The mind recalls unresolved toxic experiences often just the emotion, may take time to trace the source , ruminates on them, and starts to feel guilt, and many other emotions that ultimately puts the one experiencing into the 4F responses A sequence of triggered negative thinking often called a shame spiral Typically self inflicted, though, toxic relationships may fuel this inner dialogue as a means of control.The effects of such a flashback can be observed in MRI, it is an over activation of the right brain where emotion and childhood memory reside and greatly deactivated left brain activity in the areas of reason There is a saying, to be in your right mind, which is used to suggest mental stability But in this case, being too much in the right mind creates emotional struggles deprived of reason.The basis of healing is often to restore a healthy level of anger for self defense Anger is also a right brain emotion, that properly directed, can aggressively short circuit the inner critic not by attacking the self but outward to irrational fears, and toxic relationships A luxury a small dependent child can t use to protect against a toxic environment, but an adult can A left brained, objective approach of embracing critic is rarely helpful unless it is balanced with subjective, right brained capacity for assertive self protection Perhaps this is because the inner critic appears to operate simultaneously with right brain flashback dynamics Perhaps toxic inner critic processes are so emotionally overwhelming that efforts to resist them rationally and dispassionately are too weak to be effective p 183The therapy would then extend to grieving for the pain and loss, and then using techniques of mindfulness and self compassion to restore order in the mind The last step actually leads to increasing the connective network between left and right brain so that the two can resolve issues in conjunction.At the heart of an effective treatment is a trusted relationship This relationship should provide a safe and empathetic connection to help sit with the affects Attachment disorder often accompanies cPTSD So the first step in attaching to unsettled mind, is connecting to a trustful and safe model.Walker writes,without the development of a modicum of trust with me, my cPTSD clients are seriously delimited in their receptivity to my guidance, as well as the ameliorative effects of my empathyFour keys to development of trust for a therapist also acts as modeling Empathy through listening, mirroring, paraphrasing, validation of emotions Authentic Vulnerability I am a vulnerable person like you but can model that it is safe to feel and express all emotions, balanced emotional self disclosure, Dialogicality a balanced conversation between speaking and listening, not just therapist lecturing or client rambling but a conversation that works toward feelings and then feeling the affects, and Collaborative Relationship Repair Walker states,probably the most transformative, intimacy building process that a therapist can modelMisattunements and disaffection are common to every relationship of substance Working through the disaffection, while immediately affecting safety of relationship, can be a deeper relationship through the fair weather friend stage.Walker is a practitioner with decades of experience, much of that comes through, he can repeat same ideas in different ways so may need to read then skip about This is not a be all, end all, just one practitioner s framing of his counseling experience There is not a particular method no copyrighted and protected system like Levine as much as it provides a basis around which the problems of trauma treatment might be discussed This is a long book but he is careful to identify how many of our toxic thoughts manifest themselves

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